To all parents and even grandparents, as well as teachers, here are some unnbelievably simple Child Psychology and Behavioral Management parenting ideas that work.👇
*1. Children need a minimum of eight touches during a day to feel connected to a parent.*
If they’re going through a particularly challenging time, it’s a minimum of 12 a day. This doesn’t have to be a big deal; it could be the straightening of a collar, a pat on the shoulder or a simple hug.
*2. Each day, children need one meaningful eye-to-eye conversation with a parent.*
It is especially important for babies to have that eye contact, but children of all ages need us to slow down and look them in the eyes.
*3. There are nine minutes during the day that have the greatest impact on a child:* the first three minutes right after they wake up, the three minutes after they come home from school and the last three minutes of the day before they go to bed. We need to make those moments special and help our children feel loved.
This is simple, right? Nothing really earth-shattering here.
1⃣ Whenever u feel like scolding or beating your child, take a deep breath, or count 1-10 and then act.
2⃣ Let’s ask them to study their favorite subject on their own..
3⃣ Send them to one exam without studying at all..
4⃣ Remember what our kids are learning in 5th std is taught to 7th std abroad..
5⃣ Lets keep our kids out of unwanted competition.
6⃣ 80% of what kids are learning ,won’t be useful to them in future..
7⃣ Our kids can really afford to do whatever they want to do in future.
8⃣ Higher degrees don’t guarantee success and happiness..
9⃣ Not all the highly educated people do well professionally. And not all who do well professionally are the happiest ones..
🔟 Kids are always in a party mood.. don’t spoil their childhood. Support and let them be what they want to be. 👍😃
Pass this on to as many teachers and parents as u can.. And change the way we look at our kids and their future.
INVESTORS IN DEATH!
Yes. That is what so many people are. Sad. But very real and very wrong.
The other day a patient was brought to the hospital, a 59 year old, very pale with fast breathing. Urgent tests and scan showed severe anaemia and massive pleural effusion. The man needed blood ASAP with chest tube for drainage of the effusion. He was brought by his son and his brother. So when they found out that a pint of blood costs #8,000 they requested for discharge. No money to get the blood was the reason.
Two days later he died. A month later a ”befitting” burial was conducted, hundreds of thousands of Naira spent. This scenario plays out regularly in our hospitals. Investors in death!
Your mother or brother is sick and you live in Lagos, UK or America. If you are nice you send a paltry sum. Few days later they call you he/she is more serious. You are busy. A week later they tell you it’s getting worse, you can’t get off duty. Then they call you he/she is dead and you enter the next available flight home to arrange for the burial. Investors in death!
Your mum/dad never drove a car all their lives (despite the fact that you can afford one) and then they die and they ride in Hummer ambulance to their burial. Investors in death.
Your aged parents live in ramshackle house with no amenities. Then they die and like a witch’s trick a grand house erupts in 3 months. Investors in death!
Note that everything you do at burial you do for yourself.
You kill cows? the dead does not partake in it. Souvenirs? they don’t take one to judgement seat. All the dancers, asoebi and cooling vans, they don’t notice. All is for your personal glory.
What is a befitting burial without a befitting life?
It is better to give someone a chicken in life than to bring a cow to their burial.
I think we invest too much in death. Sometimes the living lose their source of livelihood for burials. All is vanity.
This is one thing our people need to change!