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I, Sarah Adams take you, Lawson Kuti as my lawful wedded husband, to love and to cherish, in sickness and in health, till death do us part” she smiled at him through her veil. “You may now kiss your bride Mr. Lawson” The Pastor beckoned.
Lawson’s heart raced as he gently unveiled his bride’s face. She looked so beautiful. He gently bent over and placed a soft kiss on her lips. Sarah in turn embraced him tightly with tears of joy streaming down her face. “Never leave me Sarah” He whispered in her ear. “I will never leave you” she whispered and they slowly released themselves from the embrace.
“I present to you the latest couple!” The Pastor exclaimed excitedly. The church cheered and Sarah cried more in her husband’s arms
5 years Later…
Sarah silently tip toed behind her husband. He was in his study, engrossed in reading. She smiled to herself and gently covered his eyes with both hands. “It’s just you and I in this house Sara, plus, I smelled you the moment you walked in” He quipped. Sara released her hold, sighed and sat on the study table, “Why do you figure me out so easily? I can’t even surprise you! That sucks” she curled her arms around his neck.
“You are my wife, nothing you do is supposed to surprise me” He playfully pecked her nose. “But you’ve been in the study all day and I’m bored!” She rolled her eyes.
“So what kind of fun do you suggest we have then?” He swooped her off the table in his arms. “No! no that kind of fun!” She hit him playfully till he put her down. “Ok”, He folded his arms on his chest, looking into her eyes, “So what do you want us to do?”
“Not us. Actually, all I want is to play with your play station and you’ve hidden it again! Just give it to me and you can continue your reading, pleaaaseee” She blinked her eyes playfully. “No way”, He went back toward his study chair and sat, “Not my play station”. “Why! You never let me touch it…like its your baby” She sulked.
“Well”, he rolled his eyes, “Not like you’ve given me a baby yet”. Sara paused for a moment. Did he just say that to her? The words struck her deep down. “You shouldn’t have said that Lawson…” She managed to say, her countenance changing. “But it’s true…I’m only saying the truth Sara” He turned to face her, still sitting on the chair. “The truth? You think I don’t want us to have kids?”
“Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that…” He stood to face her now. “Then what are you saying Lawson? Tell me, what is the truth?” “Let’s not do this today…please. You can have the play station and play all you want. It’s in my footwear locker and the key is in my Bible”. “You always do this…hurting me with your words” Her voice began to shake
“Don’t start Sara please”.
“Tell me why you said those words to me! I want to know!”
“Because I’m tired! I want to be a father! I want to have my own kids Sara…”
” and you think I don’t?!” Sara flared, trying not to let the tears pour. “Then why can’t you get pregnant Sara? This is the fifth year we are trying.” He clenched his teeth and walked out of the study room. Sara was in shock. She sat on the chair for some seconds, stood up again and sat on the chair again…this time she held on to her blouse and burst into tears.
“Lawson, wake up please” Sara tapped him. Lawson gently opened his eyes and looked at the alarm clock by his bedside, “It’s 2:00am Sara…”.
“It’s urgent”. “I’m listening” He said drowsily.
“Mother says we should come for tests. She says she’s spoken to her doctor and he said we should come.”
“What?” Lawson opened his eyes now, “Your mother is in the UK for Christ’s sakes”
“Let’s just do it. We can go for the weekend, lets just give it a shot, please.”
“No. That would be rather expensive and…”
“It’s my birthday today and the only thing I want from you is this trip”
Lawson fell quiet now. For the past two years now, his wife’s birthday skips his mind…totally.
“I’m…I’m sorry Sara…It skipped my mind…”
“It always does” She lay down back on the bed, backing him.
Lawson wrapped his arms around her waist, “I said I’m sorry…”
Lawson sighed, “Fine, we go this weekend”
“Really?” She turned sharply, excited
“If it will make you happy today”
“Thank you baby” She hugged him.
A week after…
Sara jerked at the vibration of the phone in her pocket. “Hi mom!” she pressed the phone to her ear with her shoulders, wiping the washed dishes with her hands. “Honey…”
“What is it mom?” she pressed it harder. “The result…the result of the tests…” her mother cried. Sarah gently dropped the plate and the wiper, hear racing…”Just say it mom…”
“I can never have children Lawson…” Sara cried.
Lawson felt his world crash right in front of him, “W…what?”
“Mama called today…she’s gotten the tests results”
“Jesus Christ” Lawson stood, placing his palm on his head, “b…but you told me you were ok before we got married, you told me the doctor said your abortion didn’t damage your womb”
“Don’t bring my past into this!” Sara flared
Lawson laughed and got serious almost immediately, “You are crazy. I married a crazy woman!” Sara looked at him in shock, like he’d lost his mind. He went on, “The results say you can never have children and we both know that this has to do with the abortion you had before we met!”, he flared, “are you happy?…you know we’re screwed right? No kids? what re we going to tell the world?”
“Lawson we can adopt…” Sara cried. “Adopt? Wow!”, he laughed again, “I married a funny woman too!” He got serious again, “Its still not our baby! The damn baby is not my flesh and blood! You are full of deceit Sara” He looked into her eyes. Sara could see him fighting his tears. “Lawson stop…you are hurting me…” Sara fell on her knees crying.
“You want to know what I’m thinking?” Lawson looked at her with disgust, “I’m thinking how on earth I’m going to stand seeing your deceitful face for the rest of my life”. “Sara cried harder, “Dont give up Lawson…So far I have a womb…I can still carry our baby…”
“I am not giving up on having my baby, I’m giving up on you” Lawson turned around to leave. “Lawson!” She held his feet, “I’m hurting too…” He only dragged his feet from her hold and drove out of the house. She wept.
A month Later…
“Mother, he’s not even talking to me. All of a sudden we are both strangers…He doesn’t eat my food, comes home late…he hates me so much and it’s killing me. I’m confused…to think that it’s truly hurting…”
“For how long will you hide this truth from him. You’ve got to let him know…you can’t carry his…”
There was the sound of a car horn. “Mom I’ve got to go…he’s back”. “Baby, you’ve got to let him know. It can work when you two are one in mind”. “Bye mom” she ended the call. Lawson came into the house, about to walk past her.
“Lawson” She held him. “I’m tired” He didn’t want to look at her face.
“I know…can we talk for some minutes?” She tried to help him remove his suit
“Look what is it” He jerked from her
“Do you hate me this much? you can’t even look me in the eye? you can’t even stand my sight? Lawson…it’s me Sara…your best friend…” Her eyes grew moist
“I’m in no mood for this” He turned around to walk away
“Don’t you dare leave when I’m talking to you!” She dragged him by the suit. Just then, some papers fell to the floor. Sara quickly bent to pick them up…her hands shook and her body became numb all over.
“D…divorce papers? Lawson?” She searched his eyes. “Answer me goddammit!” She held him by the collar of his shirt, crying.
“They are for you to sign. I want to be out” Lawson dropped. “Y…you what?” she slowly freed him from her hold
“It’s not going to work Sara, can’t you see?”
“Lawson I can’t believe you would think of a divorce and even go this far…why are you so wicked!” she cried, angry. “No! Why are you so wicked!” He retorted, flaring
“Think about me for once. I am a man for Christ’s sakes. My children are my pride! and you are about to deny me that for the rest of my life because of your stupid mistake!”
“What about me! have you stopped for once to think about what I’m going through?”
“It’s your cross, carry it” Lawson fixed his angry eyes on his wife
“No, its now our cross and I am not signing those divorce papers! We vowed never to leave each other!”
“Isn’t it better Sara that you save yourself more hurt and sign these papers than to see another woman move into this house before your very eyes?” he said with a tone of sarcasm. Sara’s heart thumped, “What?”
“You heard me…another woman who can help raise a family, so save yourself the stress and sign the damn papers. I need it tomorrow”He turned around to leave again.
“She still can’t carry your baby” Sara dropped
“Not all women had abortions. Not every woman was like you.” He scorned
“You are the one who can’t give me a child!” Sara let out, crying.
Lawson stopped now, turned around and walked towards her, “Whatever your plan is won’t work”
“I told you I could never have a child because its you who can’t make me pregnant”
“Shut up! shut up Sara! what the hell are you saying!” He shook her shoulders violently
“You are infertile Lawson…the doctor says you have primary infertility…” Sara burst into tears
Lawson gasped, loosing his balance.
“Mother called me to give me the news. I was shattered, I felt like my world was over but more importantly I thought of you. I thought of what the news could do to you, I thought of the best way to tell you… never for once did i think of leaving you. I bore your insults, your scorn, because of my past. It was so easy to judge me and think of yourself. I am the one who is hurting, I am the one who should bring some miserable divorce papers…but I thought of you…I thought of hope, faith and a miracle…I thought of my vow to you on that altar. In sickness and in health remember?”, she smiled through her tears, “all of a sudden you are as weak as a baby…looking in your eyes, I can see you suddenly have lost all your guards, You are so wicked”
“Sara…” Lawson fell on his knees, torn.
“No!” She quickly fell on her knees too, “No Lawson…” She couldn’t bear to see him cry
“I’m…I’m infertile”, he cried, “What is left of me?” he searched his wife’s eyes
“Lawson please…???? she held his face, “I understand…it has been so hard for me…I have put myself in your shoes since the first day…”
“You don’t deserve this…you deserve better…I can’t believe I scorned you all along…please let me leave you”
“No” she shook her head, “You are my husband. I won’t leave you. I won’t let you leave me…I believe in miracles”
“I’m doomed…Sara I’m doomed…”He allowed his wife take him in her arms and on her shoulder he wept like a child.
In the Morning
Sara gently opened her eyes, looking beside her bed…it was empty. She quickly sat up on seeing a note gently placed on the bed. Hands shaking, she opened the letter to read.
I cannot bear the shame. I have treated you so unfairly, yet you love me still, you are with me even in this condition of mine. To think that you knew all along and you never for once gave me a clue that it is my fault we are in this mess, makes me so unworthy of you. I love you enough to let you build another life with a man who can make you happier. I’m torn Sara and all I ask is your forgiveness. I have always loved you and if you truly love me then please start your life over again…without me…I am truly sorry for disappointing you.
Sara couldn’t control the tears. She couldn’t think straight anymore. She picked her cell phone, shaking…
“Hi Mr. Lawson’s office please”
“Hi Lola…” she cried, “have you seen my husband today?”
“No…no ma’am, we’ve been expecting him at work. He has a presentation is fifteen minutes”
“Oh God…God…” Sara dipped her hand in her full hair
“Everything ok ma’am?”
“Thank you” she ended the call.
She quickly got down from the bed and in her pyjamas she ran into her car. She dialed his number repeatedly as she drove…no answer.
She sped into Fred’s compound, a close friend to her husband.
“Fred!” she banged the door hastily till the door flung open
“My God Sara what’s wrong?” Fred held her
“It’s…it’s Lawson…have you seen him? is he here?”
“No…Haven’t heard from him in a week”
“Oh God” she held her hair
But she was already walking away into her car.
“Sara!” He called after her.
She zoomed away.
“Mom, Dad, I can’t find Lawson…I can’t find your son…” she cried as she paced in front of the two who looked lost
“You have to calm down and tell us what happened” Lawson’s mother put her arms around Sara.
Sara burst into tears, “Please Dad could you try his number, maybe he’d pick your call?”
“Have you been to his office?” He picked his cellphone and dialed his son’s number
“I have been everywhere I know him to be likely available”
“It’s ok…calm down please” Lawson’s mother pet her
“He’s not picking. What exactly went wrong between you two?” Lawson’s father searched Sara eyes
Sara was still in her pyjamas and on her way back home, exhausted and stuck in the traffic. She had told Lawson’s parents everything. The poor couple was so shattered and also begging her to begin a new life. Sara buried her head on the steering, crying; she hadn’t realized the green light.
“Hey get off the freaking road!” a driver cursed from behind her
“God please don’t let him harm himself…keep him safe and lead me to him…please God…” she quickly started the car and began to move.
Suddenly she remembered the church where they wedded and took their vows. It was two hours from here; she made a u-turn and headed for the church hoping to find some peace.
She tiredly got down from the car, drenched and exhausted. She trudged into the open entrance of the church. She paused for a moment; shocked…it was Lawson sitting at the front row of the empty church, facing the altar.
“Lawson!” She began to run towards him, happy, relieved that he was ok.
“Sara?” He quickly stood as she approached him, “Sara…”
They both ran into each other’s arms. He hugged her so tightly
“I looked for you everywhere….thi s s was the last place I thought you’d ever be…I just came and I saw you…Lawson….I’m so happy you are ok” she touched his face
“I didn’t know where else to go…It just feels like I cant face the world anymore…” he slowly released her from his embrace.
“Take my hand” Sara stretched out her hand, “C’mon, just take it”
Lawson gently clasped his hand into hers and she took him to the altar and stood to face him. She searched his eyes so deeply and hadn’t seen him so weak and helpless.
“Five years ago Lawson, we both stood on this altar. Remember our vows? Remember you whispered in my ear never to leave you. I told you I wouldn’t…that’s why I’m here. I am your wife Lawson, I am meant to be with you forever, though the bad and good times. We’ve had good times, why would I leave you now? All I want from you is to believe that you can still give me a child despite what the result said…I want you to believe in a miracle”, she held his face, “remember when you told me I was a miracle in your life?…our children will be our miracles too. Trust God with me because I know it won’t be long…”
“Who are you Sara…” Lawson was weak with her words
“The one who vowed to be with you till the end” she smiled through her thin tears
“God I love you so much Sara” He hugged her again
“So will you come back home with me?” Sara searched his eyes
“I have no other place to call home” He placed a soft kiss on her lips.
2 years after
Lawson and Sara were on the sofa watching a late night movie. Sara was resting on his shoulders when she felt the movement
“Lawson Lawson!, it moved again…don’t miss it this time touch touch” she gently placed his palm on the side of the stomach. Both felt the movement of their child
“I can feel him…I can feel him” Lawson placed his head on her belly
“I can feel him growing each day inside of me…”
“What do you think its saying now by this movement?”
“Thank you dada for believing in me” she laughed. They both laughed “The movement has stopped” he slowly removed his head from her stomach, “I think he’s sleeping”
Sara rested on his shoulders again, “In six months you’d be a father, “You finally got your miracle”
Lawson tilted his wife’s face to him, looking into her eyes, “Sara…you were the miracle I needed. Thank you for not leaving me.”
Sara tickled his nose with hers, “I love you too. Always will”, she smiled, “We missed a whole lot on our movie”
“Movie can wait, but this can’t” He gently planted a kiss on her belly.
SHE LOST HER HUSBAND…OR DID SHE?
She was waiting for her husband James to show up..
Things had changed since their marriage, the once cute, couldn’t-live- without-each-other couple had turned bitter bcos the marriage is yet to produce any child for 4yrs.. Fighting over every little thing, both didn’t like the way things had changed.
Nike was waiting to see if James remembered it was their anniversary!
Just as the door bell rang she ran to find her husband wet and smiling with a bunch of flowers in his hand.. The two started
relieving the old days. Making up for fights, there was then plan for champagne, light music. And rain outside! It was perfect
But the moment paused when the phone in the bedroom rang. Nike went to pick it up n it was a man..
“Hello ma’am I’m calling from the police station. Is this Mr James Adeyemi’s number?” “Yes it is!”
” I’m sorry ma’am; but there was an accident and a man died. We got this number from his wallet; we need u to come and identify his body.”
Nike’s heart sank.. WHAT tha Frickles!!!! “But my husband is here with me?” “Sorry ma’am, but the incident took place at 2pm, when he was boarding the subway. Nike was about to lose her senses. how could this happen!? She knew this type of things she heard about the soul of the person coming to meet a loved one before it leaves!
She ran into the other room.. He was not there.. It was true! He had left her for good!!
Oh God she would have died for another chance to mend every little fight before! She rolled on the Floor in pain. She lost her chance! Forever! Suddenly there was a noise from the bathroom,the door opened and James came out and again and said….
.”Hun, i forgot to tell u my wallet was stolen today”
LIFE MIGHT NOT GIVE U A SECOND CHANCE.. SO NEVER WASTE A MOMENT WHEN YOU CAN MAKEUP FOR YOUR DEEDS!!!
Its getting to the end of the year let’s start making amends…
To friends… And especially to a genuine love that was hurt..good morning peeps
12-steps: How to know if you are fertile
Finding out if you are fertile is important so if there is a problem it can be addressed as soon as possible. Here is a quick 12-Step program to assess your fertility.
1.Check HIS sperm count first. Testing his sperm count should be the very first test done for fertility. Up to 50% of infertile couples have a male problem and the sperm count is easy and ensures him an orgasm too. When in doubt, the female may not be the one responsible for the fertility problems. The male sperm count should be tested before she gets tested to determine whether the problem lies with a lower sperm count.
2.Track menstrual cycles . The cycle of your period is the best way to establish fertile times. If the cycle is regular, the ovulation time frame should generally be the same each month.
3.Determine ovulation cycle. Ovulation could occur on the 10th, 12th or 14th day after the first day of the menstrual cycle. Using a calendar, track your ovulation and have sex during the most fertile times.
4.Track lunar fertility cycles. The lunar fertility cycle is based on the moon phase at the time of your birth. Using an online lunar fertility phase calculator, the moon phase can be determined in the future. The lunar fertility day will be the same each month making conception all the easier.
5.Observe cervical mucus. Cervical mucus can determine when the female is most fertile. By placing the finger into the vagina, the mucus can be observed. If the mucus looks like egg whites, the time to have sex is now.
6.Have ovarian reserve testing. Ovarian reserve testing determines how many eggs are left to be released. This test can help to determine how fertile the female is and whether or not she will be able to conceive using her own eggs. If the ovarian reserve is too low for conception, an egg donor can be used in order to conceive.
7.Have FSH tested. FSH stands for follicle stimulating hormone. This test will determine if the FSH is being secreted in the proper amounts to support conception. Without the proper levels of FSH, the follicle may not be releasing eggs at the right time or at all.
8.Have estradiol tested. Estradiol is closely related to estrogen. This hormone regulates the reproductive cycle. If estradiol levels are low, the chance of conception is also low.
9.Have LH tested. LH stands for luteinizing hormone. When the reproductive phase begins there is a sharp incline in the LH. This is referred to as the LH surge and the test is with an OPK, and ovulation predictor kit.
10.Have prolactin tested. Female hormones need to be in balance in order for fertility to be optimal. Prolactin is one of the female hormones that works with other hormones to optimize fertility. Prolactin is most commonly known as the hormone that stimulates milk production, but it also works to aid in fertility.
11.Have thyroid function tested. The thyroid gland can help or hinder fertility. If the gland if overproducing, the chance of miscarriage is higher.
12.Have integrin tested. Integrin is responsible for helping the fertilized egg to attach to the uterus. If the integrin level is lower than normal, the egg may be fertilizing but not attaching to the uterus creating a viable pregnancy. There are therapies that can be used to increase integrin levels and help the egg to attach properly.
CARROT, EGG OR COFFEE?
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans.
She let them sit and boil without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.
Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me, what do you see?” “Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.
She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft and mushy. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hardened egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee.
The daughter smiled as she tasted its deep flavour and inhaled its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, “What’s the point, mother?”
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity – boiling water – but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin, outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.
“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?”
Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong? But with pain and adversity, do I wilt and lose my strength? Am I the egg that starts with a fluid spirit but, after death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart? Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water – the very circumstance that brings the adversity, the pain, the hardship – into something quite wonderful. When the water gets hot, it releases it’s fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better, and change the situation around you for the better.
When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level? How do you handle adversity?
ARE YOU A CARROT, AN EGG, OR A COFFEE BEAN?
(Somehow, wake up and smell the coffee takes on a whole new meaning)
How Bright can your Destiny be?
A Boy went to a native doctor and requested to know how bright his destiny will be. The native doctor drew a circle with a white chalk and another circle with a black chalk. After that, he placed a dead millipede on the floor and asked the boy to watch …carefully. He said he would say some incantation to make the dead millipede start crawling. He told the boy that if the millipede crawls into the white circle, it means that his destiny will be bright but if it crawls inside the black circle, it means his destiny will be dark. Finally he started his incantation and the dead millipede started crawling. When it got in between the two circles, it turned and started crawling towards the black circle. The boy watched and
immediately it was about entering the black circle, the boy picked it and gently dropped it inside the white circle. The native doctor who got furious asked the boy “Why did you do that?”. The boy said, “I CAN’T FOLD MY ARMS AND WATCH MY DESTINY CRAWL INTO DARKNESS. IT (MY DESTINY) IS IN MY HANDS!
Note to YOU: Yours is too! Act today, act now, act fast!